I was raised in India and after a traditionally arranged marriage, moved to the US with my brand new husband of three days.
Unfortunately he turned out to be mentally abusive. Being a new immigrant, and never having lived alone in the US before, I felt stuck as I didn’t know my way around, so I took the abuse for 2 years.
Do you live for others or for yourself? It is never too late to change your life for your betterment and live the life you deserve and desire.
However, one day it hit me that if I stayed in this unhappy, meaningless marriage, I would never fulfill my dreams of traveling the world – the sole purpose of my life since I was a teenager, and that was unacceptable to me, so I finally decided to file for divorce and get my freedom back.
What gave me courage to leave was the fact that I had my “get out of jail” emergency fund in place. I had 6 months of basic living expenses saved up and was financially independent and knew I will be able to survive a few months after my divorce until I figure out things.
The problem is that women stay stuck in transition and are afraid to leave because they don’t have their finances in order and have no clue how much money they need on Day 1 - Day 30 - Day 60 - Day 90 after their divorce.
Do you live for others or for yourself? It is never too late to change your life for your betterment and live the life you deserve and desire. What steps you take next in life is your choosing and decision to make.
If you ready to get unstuck and transform your life so that you can get out of the chains that are holding you back from living your dream, then here are three easy action steps you can take right away.
1) Create a separate bank account from your spouse (if you don’t already have one).
2) Start saving towards your “get out of jail” emergency fund.
3) Make a list of the expenses you will incur from “Day1” after divorce.
If you would like me to take a deeper dive, let’s connect to see how I can help you! Email me at reshmabhojwani1@gmail.com.